Today is Valentine’s Day and for all who celebrate it is a day to say those three magic words which everyone of all ages loves to hear: “I love you!”

This one phrase is considered the best message to give and receive to anyone who truly loves another person unselfishly, unconditionally, and irrevocably. A child says it to a parent, and a parent says it to a child. A teenager in the budding phases of young love says it, often for the first time, with a new intonation to someone to whom they wish to give their hearts.

For as many times as we love to hear this phrase, each of us has our own special way of not only ‘saying’ our love to another person, but showing it as well. Many women find it easy to express their emotions in their various life stages. But for many men, it all depends on what they grew up hearing. If you hear it often, chances are good, you learn to say it frequently.

What did your grandfather say to your grandmother? Did you hear the words “My beloved,” or “My sweetheart,” or “My bride” even after your grandparents had been married over 50 years? Many couples who share a lifetime of love indeed address each other that way. Others have special names for each other that “mean” love rather than specifically reflect it. Still others can say “I love you” with just the change in their voices when they call out the names of the other one. You’d know it when you hear it.

Other men, though, have a unique way of saying it that does not involve those three words. I remember from reruns that TV’s Archie Bunker was legendary for never saying it back to Edith, whenever she said “Oh, I love you, Archie!” He’d say “Yeah,” and hug her back. One day when his son in law, Mike, complained, “Archie, you never tell Ma you love her!” He replied, “I said it to her once, Meathead, and that was the day we got married, and I meant it.” Eventually, Archie found his way to saying it (again) to Edith that day, and of course, that meant the world to her. In fact, the less we hear it, the more it seems we want to hear it.

Couples who have been together a long time can share their love and affection without words. The other evening there was a rerun of the Jeff Bridges and Barbra Streisand movie, “The Mirror Has Two Faces,” and Barbra Streisand realizes that Jeff is in love with her when he asks the waiter to bring her an extra salad dressing and to please keep both of them on the side. It’s the little things that people in love know and appreciate about their partners that prove their genuine affection without having to say “those other words.”

When we are children, we are more than happy to proclaim our love for people, for our favorite foods, our favorite TV shows, anything that bring us special peace and happiness in our lives. We use the word “love” to show our special attachment to something. For everything else, we have “like” or “don’t care” or in extreme cases, “don’t like” or “can’t stand.” That’s a general rating scale we begin with. To go to greater depth than those basic levels requires age and more experience.

The longer we live, the more we come to cherish the full nature of the people we love in our lives. We seek out people who are kind, fun, intelligent, happy, good listeners, faithful friends, hard workers, people who set high goals, people who are happy to belong to families and play an important role in that family.

In life, it is frequently said that “Opposites attract,” and to a certain extent, that’s true. People who are strong in one area tend to find confidence in people who are strong in another, and those who may be weaker in one thing can take confidence in another person who is strong in that area. Together they are an unbeatable pair.

I remember from science, “like attracts like.” That phrase usually applies in solution chemistry where similar components can dissolve in others that are alike enough to them to dissolve in. That’s where the phrase “likes dissolve likes” comes from, and if they are not soluble, then you see one separate phase of a liquid sitting on top of a phase of another liquid because they don’t dissolve into the other because they are not alike (nonpolar) (oil and water). So, it is in romance. On one hand you might a man who loves to talk is attracted to a quiet woman, or vice versa. In business, one person can be the one who deals with people and the other deals with numbers. Together you’re unbeatable!

Over years, romance strengthens and the words “I love you” are implied no matter how many times they are said out loud. Still, Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to remember how nice it is to hear and how important to say them to all those whom we love.

You can say it with candy, with hearts, with flowers, and with great greeting cards. You can phone, Skype, Zoom, and FaceTime to get your message transmitted. Be sure that you say it often, whether or not it is Valentine’s Day, but this annual event is certainly a great reminder of a wonderful tradition.

Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you from our family to you!

Cody D. Jones ‘02

Owner & Community Member

In times of loss, words can be inadequate to express the depth of our emotions. That’s why we often turn to flowers to convey messages of solace, empathy, and remembrance. With that in mind, it is important to consider the symbolism associated with flowers when selecting funeral floral arrangements. The following is a brief overview of the language of funeral flowers. We hope it will make choosing funeral flowers easier and more satisfying.

A History Rooted in Ritual

Funeral flower arrangements have been an essential part of farewell rituals for centuries. They are beautiful, but more importantly, they offer profound symbolism that speaks to the complexities of grief and the long-lasting spirit of life.

In ancient civilizations, Egyptians adorned tombs with flowers. They believed the flowers guided the soul into the afterlife. Greeks and Romans associated specific flowers with deities and used them in funeral processions. Today, flowers serve as a universal language, communicating emotions and sentiments beyond the barriers of words. In the context of funerals, each bloom carries unique symbolism, weaving together a tapestry of meanings that resonate with the themes of loss, remembrance, and hope.

A Color Palette of Emotions

The color of the flowers in a funeral arrangement can play a significant role in sending the message you want to express:

• White: Often associated with purity, innocence, and reverence, white flowers like lilies, roses, and carnations are popular choices for funerals. As such, they symbolize a clean soul and a peaceful passing.
• Red: Red roses represent enduring love, passion, and deep affection. Consequently, they are a powerful expression of your strong bond with the deceased.
• Pink: Pink flowers, particularly roses and carnations, signify tenderness, appreciation, and sweet memories. They evoke a sense of gentle love and cherished moments.
• Yellow: Yellow flowers, such as sunflowers and daffodils, convey warmth, friendship, and optimism. They express a hopeful outlook and a belief in the everlasting life.
• Blue: Blue flowers, such as hydrangeas and irises, represent peace, tranquility, and deep sorrow. They convey a sense of calm and acceptance.
• Purple: Purple flowers, including lilacs and violets, symbolize respect, admiration, and devotion. As a result, purple expresses high regard for the deceased and enduring respect for their memory.

Beyond Color: The Language of Flowers

Individual flowers hold their unique meanings as well, adding another layer of significance to funeral arrangements:

Lilies: Emblems of Purity and Rebirth

Lilies bring purity and rebirth to mind. Their pristine petals and delicate fragrances make them a classic choice for funerals. White lilies symbolize the innocence of the departed soul, while stargazer lilies express sympathy and deep condolences. In particular, Easter lilies carry Christian messages of resurrection and rebirth, sharing the promise of life beyond death.

Roses: Eternal Love

Revered for their timeless beauty and enduring symbolism of love, roses have a special place among funeral blooms. Red roses traditionally represent love and passion, and white roses evoke reverence, purity, and innocence, making them a popular choice for memorial tributes. Yellow roses convey friendship, gratitude, and the cherished bond shared with the departed.

Carnations: A Symbol of Devotion

With velvety petals and fragrant blooms, carnations convey love, admiration, and remembrance. Red carnations symbolize admiration and affection, and pink carnations represent maternal love and gratitude. White carnations evoke purity, innocence, and the enduring bond between loved ones.

Chrysanthemums: Honoring the Departed

In many cultures, chrysanthemums hold special significance as flowers of mourning and grief. Their blooms symbolize grief, honor, and the eternal bond between the living and the dead. In Japan, chrysanthemums represent long life and rejuvenation, embodying the spirit of honoring ancestors and celebrating life’s cycle.

Gladioli: Strength in Adversity

The towering stems and vibrant blossoms of gladioli embody strength, resilience, and moral integrity. Often chosen for funeral arrangements to honor the courage and strength of the departed, these striking blooms remind us of a spirit that overcomes adversity. In ancient Rome, gladioli were associated with gladiators, bringing to mind the strength and courage required to face life’s challenges with dignity.

Orchids: Grace and Beauty in Grief

Exotic allure and grace make orchids a symbol of elegance, refinement, and everlasting love. Consequently, they are often selected for their simple beauty and ethereal presence. Orchids convey a sense of tranquility and serenity amidst the tumult of grief. In Chinese culture, orchids symbolize fertility, abundance, and the continuity of life, serving as a reminder of the cyclical nature of existence.

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Cultural Considerations in Funeral Floral Arrangements

Western Traditions: Elegance and Reverence

In Western cultures, funeral flower arrangements are carefully crafted to convey elegance, reverence, and heartfelt condolences. Classic blooms like lilies, roses, and carnations are favored for their beauty and symbolism. Greenery and foliage add depth and texture to the floral displays. Wreaths, sprays, and bouquets are common for funeral flowers, precisely arranged to honor the memory of the person you are honoring and offer comfort.

Eastern Customs: Rituals of Remembrance

In Eastern cultures, funeral flower arrangements are central to remembrance and ancestral veneration rituals. As such, floral tributes are offered as gestures of respect, honor, and spiritual significance, from elaborate garlands to delicate wreaths. In countries like Japan and China, white is the dominant color for funerals as they are associated with mourning and respect. Chrysanthemums, orchids, and lotus blossoms hold sacred meaning, symbolizing purity, enlightenment, and the cycle of life and death. Floral offerings are often accompanied by prayers, incense, and ceremonies, showing deep respect for the departed and the continuity of family bonds beyond the physical realm. Hindu funerals frequently highlight marigolds as they are believed to guide the soul towards the afterlife. White and yellow flowers are also preferred as symbols of purity and peace.

Funeral Flowers and Indigenous Traditions: Harmony with Nature

In indigenous cultures worldwide, funeral flower arrangements embody a deep connection to nature, spirit, and community. Native blooms and botanicals are often used in ceremony displays to honor the land, ancestors, and the circle of life. Each element holds significance, from sage and sweetgrass to wildflowers and medicinal herbs, reflecting the spiritual beliefs and ecological wisdom of indigenous traditions. Funeral rituals may include communal gatherings, storytelling, and purification rituals, fostering a sense of unity, healing, and respect for the natural world.

Structure and Form in Funeral Floral Arrangements

In funeral flowers, the chosen arrangement style goes beyond style and art. The structure and form of an arrangement can further amplify the message sent by the selected flowers and colors. Here’s how different styles contribute to the overall expression:

• Formal Arrangements: Structured arrangements with a symmetrical form, often featuring lilies, roses, or gladiolus, project a sense of dignity and respect. They are suited for funerals to honor esteemed individuals or express the occasion’s solemn tone.
• Natural Arrangements: Arrangements with a looser, more asymmetrical style featuring wildflowers, branches, or greenery evoke a sense of peace and connection to nature. They can offer comfort when celebrating the life of someone who enjoyed the outdoors or lived a more laid-back lifestyle.
• Basket Arrangements: Bursting with colorful blooms, basket arrangements represent abundant love and memories. They can be a vibrant tribute to a life filled with joy and connection.
• Wreaths: Circular wreaths, often crafted from evergreens or a combination of flowers and foliage, symbolize eternal life and everlasting memories. They are a powerful expression of never-ending love and the belief that the memory of the deceased will live on.

Beyond the Flowers: Symbolic Additions to Funeral Floral Arrangements

Incorporating elements with special meaning for the deceased or their loved ones further personalize funeral floral arrangements. Here are some examples:

• Religious Symbols: Crosses made of flowers or other religious symbols can be incorporated into the arrangement to reflect the deceased’s faith and beliefs.
• Seasonal Elements: Including seasonal elements like fall leaves or pinecones can add a touch of nature and reflect the time of year the person passed away.
• Favorite Objects: Discreetly including a small object with special meaning, like a tiny musical instrument for a musician or a seashell for a beach lover, can add unique personalization.

Funeral Flowers and A Tradition of Comfort and Remembrance

Flowers transcend their beauty to become a powerful language at funerals. By understanding the symbols of flowers and arrangement styles, you can create a meaningful tribute that expresses your love, respect, and cherished memories for the deceased. In their silent language, funeral flowers offer comfort to the grieving and serve as a lasting testament to the life that has passed.

The most important aspect of a funeral arrangement is the heartfelt message it conveys. Choose flowers with color symbolism to express your emotions. In doing so, you can create a beautiful and meaningful tribute that honors the memory of your loved one.

Selecting Flowers for a Funeral Floral Arrangement

When choosing funeral flowers, consider the personality and preferences of the deceased as well as the symbolism. For example, did they have a favorite flower? What colors did they gravitate towards? If you can, also consider the preferences of the deceased’s family. They may have specific requests or color choices. ask about preferred delivery times and locations for the floral arrangement. Some funeral homes might have special areas for flowers.

While the following are not hard and fast rules, here are some factors to consider:

• Larger standing sprays are typically selected for immediate family members, while smaller arrangements are appropriate for friends and colleagues.
• For a close family member or partner, consider flowers that represent deep love, affection, and intense bonds. Consider red or pink roses or lilies for their purity symbolism.
• For a friend or colleague, choose flowers that express respect, admiration, and cherished memories. Yellow roses or carnations, along with lilies or orchids are fitting choices.
• For a child, select flowers that signify innocence and purity, like white lilies or daisies. You can also choose brighter-colored flowers to convey hope and the promise of a life well begun.

In times of loss and grief, funeral floral arrangements are more than mere adornments; they become vehicles of solace, healing, and remembrance. Through their rich symbolism and timeless beauty, flowers offer a language of empathy and understanding, bridging the gap between the seen and the unseen, the spoken and the unspoken. Whether chosen for their cultural significance, personal meaning, or aesthetic appeal, funeral flowers hold the power to comfort, console, and uplift the spirits of both the living and the departed.

Ultimately, a funeral arrangement’s most important aspect is its heartfelt message. By understanding the symbolism of flowers and choosing them with care, you can create a beautiful tribute that reflects your love and respect for the departed.

Frequently Asked Questions About Funeral Flowers

What do funeral flowers symbolize?

Overall, funeral flowers are powerful symbols of love, remembrance, and the enduring spirit of life, offering comfort, solace, and reassurance to both the bereaved and the departed. Through their timeless beauty and profound symbolism, flowers transcend the boundaries of language and culture, conveying emotions and sentiments that words alone cannot express. The symbolism behind flowers is conveyed by both the type of flower and its color.

What is the tradition of flowers at a funeral?

The tradition of flowers at funerals dates back to ancient civilizations. Before embalming became widespread, flowers were a way to mask the odors associated with decomposition. Over time, flowers became associated with the afterlife and brevity of life. Egyptians, for example, placed flowers in tombs to guide the soul’s journey. Greeks and Romans linked specific flowers to deities and used them in funeral processing. In more modern times, flowers became a way to express emotions and convey respect for the deceased. Today, flowers are an integral part of funeral traditions. They are used in ceremonies and give flowers to show sympathy, love, and cherished memories for the departed.

What do white roses mean at a funeral?

Overall, white roses at a funeral symbolize reverence, purity, remembrance, and the enduring spirit of love. Their presence in funeral arrangements is a touching tribute to the departed and a source of comfort and consolation for those who mourn.

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Today is Valentine’s Day and for all who celebrate it is a day to say those three magic words which everyone of all ages loves to hear: “I love you!”

This one phrase is considered the best message to give and receive to anyone who truly loves another person unselfishly, unconditionally, and irrevocably. A child says it to a parent, and a parent says it to a child. A teenager in the budding phases of young love says it, often for the first time, with a new intonation to someone to whom they wish to give their hearts.

For as many times as we love to hear this phrase, each of us has our own special way of not only ‘saying’ our love to another person, but showing it as well. Many women find it easy to express their emotions in their various life stages. But for many men, it all depends on what they grew up hearing. If you hear it often, chances are good, you learn to say it frequently.

What did your grandfather say to your grandmother? Did you hear the words “My beloved,” or “My sweetheart,” or “My bride” even after your grandparents had been married over 50 years? Many couples who share a lifetime of love indeed address each other that way. Others have special names for each other that “mean” love rather than specifically reflect it. Still others can say “I love you” with just the change in their voices when they call out the names of the other one. You’d know it when you hear it.

Other men, though, have a unique way of saying it that does not involve those three words. I remember from reruns that TV’s Archie Bunker was legendary for never saying it back to Edith, whenever she said “Oh, I love you, Archie!” He’d say “Yeah,” and hug her back. One day when his son in law, Mike, complained, “Archie, you never tell Ma you love her!” He replied, “I said it to her once, Meathead, and that was the day we got married, and I meant it.” Eventually, Archie found his way to saying it (again) to Edith that day, and of course, that meant the world to her. In fact, the less we hear it, the more it seems we want to hear it.

Couples who have been together a long time can share their love and affection without words. The other evening there was a rerun of the Jeff Bridges and Barbra Streisand movie, “The Mirror Has Two Faces,” and Barbra Streisand realizes that Jeff is in love with her when he asks the waiter to bring her an extra salad dressing and to please keep both of them on the side. It’s the little things that people in love know and appreciate about their partners that prove their genuine affection without having to say “those other words.”

When we are children, we are more than happy to proclaim our love for people, for our favorite foods, our favorite TV shows, anything that bring us special peace and happiness in our lives. We use the word “love” to show our special attachment to something. For everything else, we have “like” or “don’t care” or in extreme cases, “don’t like” or “can’t stand.” That’s a general rating scale we begin with. To go to greater depth than those basic levels requires age and more experience.

The longer we live, the more we come to cherish the full nature of the people we love in our lives. We seek out people who are kind, fun, intelligent, happy, good listeners, faithful friends, hard workers, people who set high goals, people who are happy to belong to families and play an important role in that family.

In life, it is frequently said that “Opposites attract,” and to a certain extent, that’s true. People who are strong in one area tend to find confidence in people who are strong in another, and those who may be weaker in one thing can take confidence in another person who is strong in that area. Together they are an unbeatable pair.

I remember from science, “like attracts like.” That phrase usually applies in solution chemistry where similar components can dissolve in others that are alike enough to them to dissolve in. That’s where the phrase “likes dissolve likes” comes from, and if they are not soluble, then you see one separate phase of a liquid sitting on top of a phase of another liquid because they don’t dissolve into the other because they are not alike (nonpolar) (oil and water). So, it is in romance. On one hand you might a man who loves to talk is attracted to a quiet woman, or vice versa. In business, one person can be the one who deals with people and the other deals with numbers. Together you’re unbeatable!

Over years, romance strengthens and the words “I love you” are implied no matter how many times they are said out loud. Still, Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to remember how nice it is to hear and how important to say them to all those whom we love.

You can say it with candy, with hearts, with flowers, and with great greeting cards. You can phone, Skype, Zoom, and FaceTime to get your message transmitted. Be sure that you say it often, whether or not it is Valentine’s Day, but this annual event is certainly a great reminder of a wonderful tradition.

Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you from our family to you!

Cody D. Jones ‘02

Owner & Community Member